Last fall, when Charlie was born, Liza shared a maternity room with a lovely young woman, a first-time mother who was determined to breastfeed her newborn daughter. It wasn’t easy. The baby seemed to have a hard time latching on. The mother was worried about her milk coming down. It seemed that every time she tried to feed her daughter something went wrong. Her determination soon turned into discouragement.
She turned to Liza for support, and Liza assured her, “Don’t worry, she’ll get the hang of it;” “You’re doing great, it just takes time;” “Don’t give up, it’s always hard at the beginning;” “She’s wonderful, she’s perfect, some babies just take a while to catch on…” Her husband, who was just giddy about being a Dad — a beautiful thing to behold — was abundantly supportive.
By the second day things were improving. But then her family came to visit. Her mother and aunt watched her struggle through a difficult feeding and voiced their opinions: “Why in the world are you trying to do that?” “That’s the most unnatural natural thing that a woman can do!” “Just put some formula in a bottle . . . it’s so much easier.”
While Liza quietly seethed on the other side of the curtain.
I share this story not because we are militant about breastfeeding — we aren’t — but because it shows how Peter* could not have chosen a better metaphor for the struggle of the church to persist in following Christ in a culture where convenience comes first. Every time a Christian thinks about taking up her cross by choosing the path of servanthood, the path of sacrificial love, there is a legion of voices in the room urging another way.
Listen again to the beginning of our reading: “Like newborn infants, long for the pure, spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow into salvation — if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.”
If you think that Peter is being bold by suggesting that his audience is a bunch of babies, consider the scandalous nature of the rest of the metaphor. Here the paternal image so often applied to God gives way to a strikingly intimate picture of a mother God who feeds and nurtures her children at the breast. And yes, you heard it right, Christ is the mother’s milk. There are few scriptures that capture with such vivid, shocking clarity the promise of the Gospel that we are truly children of God, more beloved and precious and closer to God’s heart than any creed can convey. If you want to know what God’s love is like, look no further.
I know that my maternity room story isn’t a perfect fit for Peter’s metaphor, since the roles are reversed — alas, the search for the perfect sermon illustration continues — but maybe it can still help to illuminate the larger purpose of the epistle. Peter isn’t just writing to keep in touch. He writes to remind a worn and weary church that they have been called by God to bear a special witness to the world. He writes to embolden their resistance to a dominant culture that values power more than people. He writes to give them courage for a radically different way of living, a way that will seem strange and even dangerous in the eyes of the world. I’m talking, of course, about the life-giving, debt-forgiving, peace-building, liberation-seeking, neighbor-loving, cross-bearing way of Jesus Christ.
How do we begin to live such a life? How do we sustain the spiritual strength and the moral imagination to stay on a path that is always unconventional, often unpopular, and sometimes totally illogical? Paul counseled the Christians in Rome to “not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2). But how can our minds be renewed when they are bombarded with some 5,000 advertising messages a day telling us what we should buy, why we deserve it, and how our lives will be the better for it? After a while, once we’ve watched enough TV and played enough Xbox and consumed enough Coke and taken enough trips to Disney and seen enough product placements in the movie franchise du jour, can we help the fact that the Holy Spirit might not be the only thing shaping our sense of what is good and acceptable and perfect?
There’s the rub. As disciples of Christ, we are called into a world of suffering as agents of peace and healing, we are called into a world of bondage to work for the liberation of the oppressed, we are called into a world where the fear of scarcity reigns so that we might proclaim the inauguration of a new kingdom of abundant life. Our calling leads us into the world, not away from it, but without some serious strategies for renewal the church can very easily become afflicted with a kind of Stockholm syndrome, a kind of spiritual amnesia that leads us to think that we can follow the Crucified One and seek out the American Dream at the same time.
Mercifully, the epistle offers some guidance on this point. It is interesting to note, for example, that Peter does not simply say: “do this” and “don’t do that.” There is a good deal of that kind of language in the letter. But the careful reader is also rewarded with a more nuanced analysis of the problem. Listen yet again to the second and third verses: “Like newborn infants, long for the pure, spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow into salvation — if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.”
Here he uses the language of desire — “long for the pure, spiritual milk” — to show that faith can’t be reduced to a simple rejection of the world, to show that the life of the faithful person is more than a matter of what they don’t do, and what they don’t say, and what they refrain from buying. These practices of renunciation are some of the fruits of a robust faith, to be sure, but they are not the ground from which faith grows, because there is nothing about any of these practices in and of themselves that will nourish our humanity and deepen our communion with mystery. It is a dour religion, devoid of Christ, that defines “spiritual” things solely in terms of self-denial, negation, and refusal. And sadly, this is the version of Christian commitment that many people have been handed, so that many people both in the church and outside of it have this idea that you can’t belong to a good Christian unless you divest yourself of every human desire. (If you’re wondering why we Americans are so neurotic about sexuality, this is a big reason why.)
But Peter isn’t afraid to use the language of desire, the language of longing, because he understands that the problem is not that we desire but what we desire. This is a helpful insight, because it gives us something to work with. Rather than just saying that we should try harder, or that we should have better willpower, or that the proper posture of Christianity is to say no to everything that the world has to offer, the text helps us to develop creative strategies for renewal by inviting us to look within ourselves and consider the desires that drive our intentions and actions. Do we long to be rich by becoming poor like Jesus, or do we long to be wealthy in the way that Donald Trump defines wealth? Do we long to share in the victory of Christ who becomes humble for the sake of others, or do we long to be winners, Charlie Sheen style? Do we long for the body of Christ, the mother’s milk, or do we believe that Snickers really satisfies?
This is a much more responsible way of looking at things, because instead of casting ourselves as innocent victims of a fallen world we begin to recognize within our own hearts the need for conversion, transformation, metanoia. The Christian life is not meant to be easy. One doesn’t just wake up in the morning and say, “I think I’d like to follow Christ today.” It takes work. It takes practice. It takes a community of mutual support and encouragement.
Here we begin to see that the ancient Christian practices such as prayer, silence, solitude, sabbath, fasting, the celebration of the sacraments — some of which we sometimes call “disciplines” — are given to us as gifts for our nourishment and growth as children of God. Far from being electives for people who have the time and the inclination, they are the core curriculum of the Christian life, the things that can help us to train our hearts on Christ. (And please be assured that I am not moralizing here, since I am as guilty as the next guy of choosing a cup of coffee and the box scores from last night’s games over an intentional time of silent prayer in the morning.) At the end of the day, we realize that we cannot go it alone, that we need each other, that we need to bear each other’s burdens, to call each other to prayer, to lift each other’s hearts, to remind each other of the promise.
Are we tired? Are we discouraged? Have we grown cynical? Has the church lost its way? Courage, Peter says, courage. However great our despair or disorientation, however much we may falter or flounder about, nothing can cancel the covenant of God’s love made known to us in Christ. We are a chosen race that subverts the category of race altogether, we are a royal priesthood serving at the altar of God’s self-emptying love, we are a holy nation of exiles and aliens — Peter’s words, not mine — bearing the good news that God’s salvation does not stop at the border but reaches to the ends of the earth. We are God’s own people, in order that we might be witnesses to the marvelous light of God that makes all things new. Courage. Courage. Whoever believes in Christ, whoever longs for the mother’s milk, will never be put to shame.
—Jonathan Hauze
*The author of this epistle was probably not the apostle Peter but an elder of the Church in Jerusalem in the second or third generation of Christianity. To avoid awkward prose, however, I follow the convention of referring to the author by the name tradition has given him.